Are We Really Available In A Relationship?

Two most important elements that’s determine the quality of our lives are:

No. 1 How we manage our thoughts and emotions and our life holistically! 

No. 2 How are our relationship with our close, near and dear ones, friends, colleagues and other humans beings in the surroundings! In this article we will be talking purely about our relationship with fellow near and dear ones and other individuals.

I would like to share a story about my personal deep realization about what it truly means to be available in a relationship!

I have always been relating myself with others mostly through emotions and little of thinking but for sure with being absolute non-judgemental, call it becoming attached to someone, call it becoming over caring about someone, or call it becoming too intimidating! This to me was a very vulnerable but an intense and a compassionate way of living my life. This also turned out to be one major reason why I choose to become a physician. But to realize what I have just written it took a lot of reading and self-observation. I always did so and am doing it at present also but now this is more conscious process unlike before when it was spontaneous and inadvertent. As I became more and more conscious in relationships it made me realize that to fulfill other persons real needs it requires more than just complete mental and physical presence, it requires one to understand other persons life situation, state of mind, nature and other tendencies to become  available to the other person. Once at least one of the person become genuinely available in a relationship with such absolute mental and physical presence it leads to a very healthy and a joyful relationship. Just the awareness of becoming available in a relationship is such a life transforming way of living that we would never have to suffer or become miserable ever again, because when we become aware we start transcending ourselves to an optimal level of awareness in which there is complete joy and bliss. We will never have to expect any one to be available when we ourselves are available in a relationship regardless of other persons state of mind, beliefs, ideas and approach in a relationship.

As I mentioned it took a lot of reading and self-observation to reach this state of awareness but eventually all my efforts to cultivate this awareness about becoming available in a relationship turned out to be fruitful and transformed my inner self to a more joyful and blissful state because I know how much available I am in any relationship.


Human Consciousness or Awareness/Inadvertent behavior & Human Strength/Weaknesses or limitations are being tested during this difficult time by the nature.

Let’s look at today’s latest statistics about coronavirus cases all around the world starting december 2019 till today. NUMBER OF PEOPLE AFFECTED- 341561 NUMBER OF PEOPLE RECOVERED- 99040 NUMBER OF PEOPLE DIED- 14748 China, Italy, Spain, France, Germany, Iran and USA being at highest morbidity and mortality rates among all.

What are the 5 health determinants that reflects a person’s health?

1. Environment condition

2. Literacy rate

3. Social status of an individual

4. Economic status of an individual

5. Person’s individual characteristics and behaviour

In coronavirus outbreak, inappropriate environment conditions, and individual person’s characteristics and behavior are the major determinants that lead to this outbreak and later on after the pandemic situation other determinants combined with these 2 top determinants determined the morbidity and mortality among people.

Our ecosystem is in synchrony with the living and non-living things on this earth. Coronavirus outbreak reflects there is a imbalance in this ecosystem. If we look at the immense numbers of people affected and died due to this virus, it definitely invites us to rethink our ways of living. Although we know from the past infections like SARS and NIPA virus outbreaks that this virus is also zoonotic in nature, we are not actually able to point out the source of infection. If we observe in this outbreak developed nations has a high morbidity and mortality as compared to the developing nations which is quite unusual and worrisome. Despite so much of advancement in all round development we are unable to save people from dying. Death of 14000 people for a silly reason is unaffordable.

Another concern that is being raised is future environmental health hazards due to our inadvertent way of living. We really need to brainstorm our ways of living that could be hazardous to us and make necessary changes to ensure our future safety against these disease. Best preparedness against future hazard will be when we don’t ignore and ensure basic environmental and human requirements for optimal living. Adding to this also when we prioritize them above business and greedy growth by inadvertently ignoring the basics. How can we climb the 5th step of the stairs by ignoring the 1st one? Doing so we let ourselves to injuries by falling down.

This pandemic reflects how we are all connected by nature despite all the individual differences bases of religion, caste, creed, likes and dislikes e.t.c that we have built in our minds. This time also gives us an opportunity to realize how our individual action or inaction can affect others tremendously in positive or a negative way. Its indeed nature’s call live a highly conscious life and remove all the indifferences that we intentionally or inadvertently created in our minds.

Let’s live a life of high awareness with a vision of UNITY and LOVE for each other!