Two most important elements that’s determine the quality of our lives are:
No. 1 How we manage our thoughts and emotions and our life holistically!
No. 2 How are our relationship with our close, near and dear ones, friends, colleagues and other humans beings in the surroundings! In this article we will be talking purely about our relationship with fellow near and dear ones and other individuals.
I would like to share a story about my personal deep realization about what it truly means to be available in a relationship!
I have always been relating myself with others mostly through emotions and little of thinking but for sure with being absolute non-judgemental, call it becoming attached to someone, call it becoming over caring about someone, or call it becoming too intimidating! This to me was a very vulnerable but an intense and a compassionate way of living my life. This also turned out to be one major reason why I choose to become a physician. But to realize what I have just written it took a lot of reading and self-observation. I always did so and am doing it at present also but now this is more conscious process unlike before when it was spontaneous and inadvertent. As I became more and more conscious in relationships it made me realize that to fulfill other persons real needs it requires more than just complete mental and physical presence, it requires one to understand other persons life situation, state of mind, nature and other tendencies to become available to the other person. Once at least one of the person become genuinely available in a relationship with such absolute mental and physical presence it leads to a very healthy and a joyful relationship. Just the awareness of becoming available in a relationship is such a life transforming way of living that we would never have to suffer or become miserable ever again, because when we become aware we start transcending ourselves to an optimal level of awareness in which there is complete joy and bliss. We will never have to expect any one to be available when we ourselves are available in a relationship regardless of other persons state of mind, beliefs, ideas and approach in a relationship.
As I mentioned it took a lot of reading and self-observation to reach this state of awareness but eventually all my efforts to cultivate this awareness about becoming available in a relationship turned out to be fruitful and transformed my inner self to a more joyful and blissful state because I know how much available I am in any relationship.